I certainly don’t agree with cheating, I feel it’s underhanded and shady. But after all this cheating talk, I started thinking, where there’s a will there’s a way. If someone in a relationship is attracted to another, fantasizes about that person, wonders what it would be like to kiss that person or potentially do more with that person, why fight it? The potential cheater has occupied so much of their time thinking about that person, building up the experience, essentially committing themselves to seizing the moment if it presents itself, bottom line – they are going to do it anyway. So why not give them some tips on how they can cheat effectively? I mean really meet their true cheater potential. So potential cheaters, here are 8 tips I’ve developed especially for you.
Tip 1
Lose your conscience. Undoubtedly you’re going to feel guilty. It doesn’t matter how many times you do it…even if it’s just a kiss…if you’re cheating and you have a conscience the rush you feel will be tainted with guilt and then what’s the point? Guilt is such an albatross, and with guilt you will not be able to continue the affair. So ditch your conscience. NOTE: It is possible that your desire for another will overwhelm your conscience, but you still have to live with the guilt that comes along with that. No conscience, no guilt.
Tip 2
Let go of any consideration regarding the feelings of your partner. Never mind the heartache or utter devastation they will feel when (not if) they find out. You will not be able to commit to cheating if you have any regard for their feelings whatsoever.
Tip 3
Let go of any regard for any STD’s you may bring back to your partner, even if you use protection, we all know there’s that .1% possibility of failure, and since you’re cheating the likelihood of achieving that .1% is drastically increased. Don’t give a second thought to those STD’s that are momentarily unseen, like herpes, but will wreak havoc on you for the rest of your life. Also, let go of regard for unexpected pregnancy between you and your co-cheater. Even if you/they have trouble conceiving, your chance of unexpected conception is practically imminent.
Tip 4
Completely forget about the life you have built with your partner. Forget about all the things you’ve been through that helped build the life you have, let go of all the trials and tribulations you and partner have worked through, all the laughter, all the tears, everything you have shared…forget ’em, they’re gone. Once you cheat, your life as you know it is going to come crashing down anyway, maybe not right away, but eventually. Best just to be rid of any history you have with your partner.
Tip 5
Ignore the emotions of your kids, at least for now. Don’t even think about how you’re going to hurt them and how their lives will be turned upside down and inside out. Try not to think about how it’s going to feel when your little girl or boy asks, “Why don’t you and Mommy (or Daddy) live together anymore?” You can always face them when they are older and have plenty of resentment towards you. If you do give that some thought, you might change your mind entirely, and we wouldn’t want that.
Tip 6
Be selfish. After all, you haven’t felt like this in you can’t remember how long – the anticipation, the yearning, the lust. There’s something special here and you owe it to yourself to explore it. Disregard that little voice that is telling you to consider your partner, your family – essentially YOUR LIFE. You have a right to be selfish, you do everything for everyone else…even though you made the decision to be in a monogamous relationship and made a commitment to your family…you want to explore the excitement and gratification of lust. Forget that selfishness will lead to you having a physically gratifying affair, only to eventually be left all alone wanting what you used to share both physically AND emotionally with your former partner.
Tip 7
Add time to your daily routine to be paranoid. Be suspicious of your partner, after all they may be suspicious and snooping. You may want to consider the following: make all of your computers password protected and hide your password from your partner, DO NOT be linked with your co-cheater on Facebook or any other social media site, create a new email account, make sure you do not confuse your and your partner’s similar looking cell phones and be sure to keep your cell phone close by at all times. Basically, don’t leave any incriminating evidence anywhere.
Now prospective cheaters, if you only pay attention to one of these 8 tips, let it be the following:
Tip 8
Think about why you’re considering cheating. What is it that you are missing from your current relationship that is causing you to stray (or consider straying)? Then ask yourself whether the object of your desire is really going to fulfill it for you? Is there any way to satisfy your needs at home, perhaps you can rekindle your relationship with better communication and nurturing?
If after all of this, you are still thinking about cheating remember, what goes around will come back around and your karma will kick you in the ass. So, if you find yourself thinking about someone else, wanting to spend time with them, etc. give your partner the respect they deserve and leave them, no matter how much it will hurt both of you. You do not get to have your cake and eat it too…if you have a lustful affair you DO NOT get to go home to a normal life again.
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